Friday, April 14, 2023

What happens to a church's property if it is removed from a provincial Mennonite Brethren conference?












What happens to a church’s property when it is removed from membership in a provincial Mennonite Brethren conference? 

That was the question I was asked after Southridge and Freechurch were expelled from the Ontario Conference of Mennonite Brethren Churches (ONMB). 

I didn’t know the answer. So I reached out to Michelle Knowles, Chair of the Board of ONMB. 

She replied: “In Ontario, our Conference does not hold titles to any local church property or assets. The only exception may be a short-term arrangement to support a new church. So, in the case of FreeChurch and Southridge, property remains with each of the churches. 

I reached out to the Mennonite Brethren Church of Manitoba (MBCM) with the same question. I received no response. 

A check of MBCM’s constitution shows the “real property of all congregations shall be registered in the name of THE MENNONITE BRETHREN CHURCH OF MANITOBA.” 

It goes on to say that “upon disassociation of any local member church from the Manitoba Conference, legal and equitable ownership in all real and personal property of such church shall immediately vest in The Mennonite Brethren Church of Manitoba, subject to any recommendations by the Leadership Board to the Manitoba Conference and any decision of the Manitoba Conference relating to the same.” 

When MBCM holds its assemblies, those assemblies “shall be entitled to deal with all property of the congregations as such Assemblies of Congregations may deem advisable, subject only to the provisions of any trust under which such property may be held.” 

In B.C., the British Columbia Mennonite Brethren Conference (BCMB) also holds title to all church property. 

As its constitution states: “Title to all property, whether real or personal, at Recognized Church sites, is held by the Society (BCMB), except for such other arrangements as may be made by the Executive Board and ratified by the Society.” 

It goes on: "Upon dissociation of any Recognized Church from the Society, ownership in all real and personal property of such Recognized Church shall remain in the Society, subject to such recommendations of the Management Committee as may be accepted by the Executive Board.” 

(Update: It was noted that a growing number of Mennonite Brethren churches in B.C. have taken titled to their properties, the result of a decision made some decades ago to give churches in that province that option.)

I was not able to find out how this works in Alberta of Saskatchewan. Anyone have any information on that?

Thursday, April 13, 2023

Comments and responses to Brian Cooper's article about theology trumping family when it comes to LGBTQ+ welcome and affirmation (plus a response from Brian)


 







A number of comments were made on the post about Brian Cooper's article in the April MB Herald Digest about theology trumping family and relationships when it comes to LGBTQ+ welcome and affirmation. Some came on this blog, some came on Facebook when I posted a link to the article. Find the responses below. 

Brian has published a response to these comments on his blog. Find it here. 

Comments on the blog 

Michael Young. While it (the article) is discussing church family, this logic will be applied to some MB households. Our queer kids will pay for this. 

Mardell Neufeld. I appreciated Brian Cooper's recent article, "All In The Family?" It reminded me of a book, Messy Truth by Caleb Kaltenbach that I recently read. With the wisdom of personal experience (being raised by 3 gay parents), the author shows the reader how to love and to listen well to others despite our differences while still maintaining our convictions.

With that in mind, I have a few questions to ask. How is it that those of us who are staying faithful to our convictions and yet still desire to show empathy to the LGBTQ community and beyond are being denounced for not affirming same-sex marriage? If I don't affirm someone's lifestyle (no matter what kind it is) does it mean that I don't love them or care about them enough to walk alongside them, no matter what it looks like or what kind of journey they are going through?

Will the people within the MB conference who affirm same-sex marriage and the gay lifestyle still respect me for my views and beliefs on this matter? I am thankful for our MB conference leaders and stand behind them wholeheartedly on this issue. I believe we need to respect them for their beliefs and convictions. It's not about being kicked out of the denomination if you don't agree with the MB Confession of Faith. Perhaps for those who are pushing an agenda and approach to same-sex marriage that is contradictory to conference beliefs, maybe it IS best to gracefully part ways. Isn't that how it is with any organization? Why the fight? Can a house divided still stand?

I believe this could be a wake up call for all of us as an MB denomination as well as the broader Church. Could it be, perhaps that God is calling us all to repentance for how we have mistreated people and have not listened well. Can we extend grace and forgiveness, and show love and respect for others who we don't necessarily agree with? May God help us!
 

Anonymous. Matthew 10:34-36 could be seen as a prescriptive to exclude those who disagree with us theologically (as in Brian Cooper’s interpretation?) or this passage could be seen as descriptive of what happens when “we are deprived of sacrificial safeguards” (Rene Girard). Jesus is not intending to bring separation within families (close relationships), but Jesus is describing what will happen unless we choose to not separate from each other - a choice can be made. 

Anonymous. Years ago I walked with a mother who, together with her husband, acting on the advice they received from a church elder, had decided to have nothing to do with their gay son. Her heart was broken. Every birthday, Easter, Christmas, was agony. I constantly tried to encourage her to get in touch with him. Toward the end of her life she did that. Both of their lives could have been so different had they tried to understand each other, reach out to talk, to listen, come to some kind of agreement rather than cutting the ties that bind! 

David Wiebe. Brian Cooper's article reminds me of Maximus the Confessor, an interesting case from church history. The Bishop of Constantinople and Maximus stood on different sides of an issue concerning Jesus' identity: did Jesus have one or two natures? The inscrutability of this issue is relevant; how many centuries did it take the church to work on this and "land" on a conclusion? 

The two men battled it out in public. Maximus was a terrific orator and seemed to gain the upper hand. So the Bishop imprisoned him. But people came to the prison to hear Maximus - so the Bishop cut off his tongue. Maximus then put his erudite thoughts to paper and people collected his writings. So the Bishop cut off his hand. Ultimately the Bishop determined that Maximus was a heretic and exiled him to present-day Georgia where he died. Only 20 years later a major church council reviewed his case and declared him "not a heretic but a saint"!


The current CCMBC leadership, as expressed in Cooper's article, seems happy to declare pro-inclusion Mennonite Brethren people "heretics" – i.e. worthy of excommunication, though "we'll still talk to you as the black sheep of the family." This on a far less important matter than Jesus' identity! Note that "heretic" has the same etymology as "cohere". So a "heretic" isn't coherent with the group. This is about unity and the effort to maintain the "unity of the Holy Spirit".

Based on Cooper's argument, and my experience in recent years, I think CCMBC leadership are too "trigger happy" and don't desire to put the effort needed into figuring out "coherence" on this complex issue. The Equip Conference with David Fitch was all about taking the time to work through the major issues that confront us. Cooper, CCMBC and the National Faith and Life Team don't seem at all interested in adhering to the valuable insights of Fitch on this.

I also submit CCMBC has not been consistent in its application of the Confession of Faith to the challenge of "being family." In the past on at least 2 Confessional matters we have given a great deal of time and room for churches to innovate outside the confessional bounds. For about 20 years in the 1970-80s churches permitted non-baptized Christians to take the Lord's Supper (This was aimed at newcomers as a way to help them feel like they belonged). This breach of the Confession never brought on dismissals of churches or pastors' credentials.
 

In the early 1990s the Conference changed the Confession to accommodate, recognizing we were breaking with not only our 100 year old tradition but the 2,000 year tradition of the church! In the 1990s and early 2000s churches were baptizing people with the option of membership—also a breach of the Confession. Article 8 was rewritten to accommodate that quite recently.

Throughout these scenarios, the "family" metaphor surely prevailed, but in an unspoken way. Today, though, we seem to be troubled by it. Something has changed - and not for the better.

Finally, it is possible to push an analogy too far. Delbert Wiens, formerly of Fresno Pacific College (MB school) said when we push even a biblical analogy too far, we can cross a line into heresy. While I would never accuse Brian Cooper himself of being a "heretic" I feel he may have pushed the family analogy into territory where the family metaphor no longer coheres. And thus his article should be taken with a "grain of salt."
 

Lee Kosa. I am saddened that an article that calls us to prioritize "the unity of the spiritual family—even ahead of those beloved biological family members we would like to affirm in the context of theological differences regarding LGBTQ+ inclusion—would not include an acknowledgment of the tragic reality that LGBTQ+ youth from evangelical families are at greater risk of family rejection and homelessness than other youth. 

Surely the position that spiritual family "takes precedence" over biological family has contributed to Christian parents rejecting their LGBTQ+ children. 

Family rejection is one of the two leading risk factors for LGBTQ+ teen suicide. As I learned from the BCMB-promoted Posture Shift seminar, 42% of youth in evangelical families fear being disowned by their parents. 9% are kicked out of their homes. 85% feel uncomfortable coming out to their parents. 81% fear being seen as disgusting by their parents and they are 8 times more vulnerable to suicide if family rejection occurs.

While the author admits that this difficult form of "faithfulness," does not mean "complete and utter dissociation" and that "most of the time biological . . . connections are to be enjoyed and celebrated" it seems insensitive, if not irresponsible, and certainly out of step with the pastoral concern encouraged by Posture Shift to fail to acknowledge the suffering that the rejection of biological and spiritual family members has caused and continues to cause LGBTQ+ people.
 

I wonder how this conversation about prioritizing spiritual family over biological family shifts when such prioritization contributes to harming the vulnerable members of our churches and wider society.

In the early church, when people's belief in Jesus ostracized them from their biological family, the new Christian spiritual family went to great lengths to welcome many of these new believers—many of whom were women and were particularly vulnerable in a patriarchal society when detached from their biological family. The contemporary North American Christian evangelically influenced church has largely amputated vulnerable LGBTQ+ believers from their spiritual body and many of those who do stay experience harm as churches are sadly often a haven of ignorance, misinformation, and bigotry. Surely we cannot bracket the reality of harm out of a discussion about the ramifications of prioritizing the spiritual family over the biological.

I do appreciate the article's call to not "anathematize those who differ." However, the comment causes me to wonder why I was referred to as a ''false teacher" by a BCMB leader in front of over a hundred people even when no evidence was ever produced of me publicly teaching anything contrary to the CoF. That certainly felt anathematizing.
 

While I was hoping my departure from the BCMB could have been seen as akin to what Andrew describes as "parting company over significant differences" the PMC's investigation of me as a potential "false teacher" was a hurtful approach that exacerbated conflict in my former congregation.

Lastly, I wonder what exactly "substantial consensus" means. If it simply means a majority, I'm not sure "consensus" is the right word. Furthermore, a majority is not hard to maintain when you simply kick out dissenting voices. Also, historically when it comes to discerning social/theological issues such as the enslavement of people and women in leadership, the majority was wrong for long periods of time while the vocal minority has often embodied the prophetic role of condemning injustice and advocating for reform.
 

Donald Peters. Brian Cooper’s reflections provide a good explanation of why the Mennonite world is so replete with denominations. If we make his reflections prescriptive, we’ll have even more.

Cooper states: “Theological connections are the measure of the true [spiritual] family.” Might it also be true that in the spiritual family, theological connections are strong enough to allow for different, even contrary theological views among members?

Cooper states: “Knowing when and why to part ways can be a sign of theological maturity rather than theological failure.” Might it also be true that a decision to part ways can be a sign of theological immaturity and theological failure?

All families, be they biological, cultural, theological, or spiritual, benefit from healthy doses of patience and humility.
 

From Facebook 

Dora Dueck. Thank you for featuring this article, John. I read much of that issue several days ago and this article (together with the Q & R feature and revisions to the intro to the C of F) has been sitting in my head and heart as a heavy disturbance ever since. 

Against the winsome words of Mark Baker about moving together in the direction of Jesus, this one falls like a discouraging stone. 

With respect, I believe Mr. Cooper is wrong here, and I hope that a lively discussion can ensue, because, frankly, this is pretty important. 

There's much I could say, but just a couple of quick points.  

1. I feel he greatly overstates the "biological" family piece of the MB denomination. It's true that there are shared-ethnic and shared-history components, yes, absolutely for sure, especially early (understandably) and it wasn't always easy for those outside that history to find their way comfortably in. (Women, for example, could feel a similar sense of grievance at times about struggling to get "inside".) But I think, if we're to speak of family (I prefer community or connectivity) MBs have become broader and more diverse, so it seems inaccurate to speak of biological in this context. 

2. Family as it's been used to describe the MB denomination is a metaphor, not literal; how strange to argue for exclusion then on the basis of Jesus' words referring to literal family in contrast to his. 

3. Belonging, community, family, whatever we wish to call it, is created in multi-faceted ways, and it seems as if Mr. Cooper is creating a binary instead of looking at many other components and losses that have divided and distanced us. 

Ironically, in the past few years, theology (shorthand for C of F here) has been almost exclusively emphasized. And yet we are having more difficulty hanging together than we ever have. And please don't tell me we haven't had tough disagreements to work through in the past. 

But most importantly for me, and sorry this has gotten so long, do we truly believe "theology does take priority over family and relationships"? Do we? Isn't the very heart of theology itself relationship? Following Jesus who said, "this is my command, that you love one another . . . remain in my love." What am I missing? 

Elsie Neufeld. Have you ever heard someone say, "If the Bible says it, I believe it, that settles it?" That sort of thinking does damage to the way the Bible actually works. The Bible includes metaphor, hyperbole, history, poetry, philosophy, prophecy, etc.  

Andrew Dyck. Thank you, John, for highlighting Brian's article in MBH. As Dora writes above, I too would love to see a robust and generous conversation [and FB is an especially poor medium for such] about the use of "family" in Scripture...both as theological metaphor and/or ontological reality (e.g. when Jesus calls his apprentices friends, and when he states that his mother, sisters, and brothers are those who do God's will). 

In a similar vein, I'd like to see a response article to Brian's piece that wrestles with the meaning, extent, and nature of Christian unity (as Jesus prays for it in John 17). In what ways is unity an ontological reality established by the Holy Spirit? 

Then, as a follow-up, how can we faithfully express that God-created unity with our various human-created institutions (incl. churches and denominations) — I think, for instance, of the realizations within the global ecumenical movement that institutional unity is neither possible nor necessarily desirable. Unity is thus to be sought and nurtured in additional ways. 

Finally, the other topic I'd like to see addressed is the difference between church discipline (aka excommunication—i.e. breaking communion over apostasy, deliberate persistent sinning, or creating disunity—generally as a practice that identifies a person as outside the Christian community), and other ways of parting company over significant differences (a la Paul and Barnabas disagreeing about the contributions or lack thereof of John Mark). So many great topics that warrant digging, debate, dignity, and delight. 

James Toews. Andrew has raised a good number of points that also resonate with me. You will no doubt respond to those. But let me put mine forward as well. You will have to pick a course through these critiques. 

My first query of you is your apparent conflation of "spiritual" and "theological". To me they represent apples and oranges, as it were. I think this conflation leads to extreme and unjustified actions. 

As followers of Jesus, we are a "spiritual" family by virtue of our commitment to follow Him. Jesus defined us as family and the whole NT is focused on how we behave as such given the mix of personalities, the conflicts, and the issues that are part of life on earth. Being family is not easy. 

On the other hand, being a theological family means understanding and affirming a series of statements which followers of Jesus have debated in the last 2000 years. The history of that is very sad and has consistently brought out the worst in Jesus' followers. 

Imo, most people in the theological families that now exist, have only vague understanding of their theological content. Most join because that’s the family through which they were introduced to Jesus. 

That’s not to say theological family doesn’t matter, but that it is a far more nuanced entity than it appears you assume it is. Further, to me it appears that exiting members of our CCMBC family who are wrestling with a topic that is profoundly new [gay behaviour having only been decriminalized some 50 years ago], is the wrong step for the time. We need to talk in good faith first.

Many of us feel that has not happened in the CCMBC yet. We need to talk first before we determine who is in and who need to be out. 

Shoaib Ebadi. By the way, LGBTQ+ is not the only issue that Christian denominations are different. There are other differences about baptism, baptism in the Holy Spirit, drinking, wearing head covering for women, women's involvement in the church and in church leadership etc. there are some Christian denominations that welcome LGBTQ+. Unity is not uniformity. If you believe differently about an issue, it doesn't mean you don't love someone. There are five billion people in the world that need Jesus and his salvation. Friends please FOCUS on the lost world. 

Rich Janzen. Thanks for the post, John. It leaves me with many questions (to add to the other questions in this thread). Which of our shared convictions meet the threshold of requiring adherence lest we force a “parting of ways”? 

What of those congregations who currently are not in alignment with other parts of our confession of faith (beyond LGTBQ+ inclusion)? 

Similarly, what about those congregations who functionally disregard our shared convictions, or sidestep them in favour of others? Do they get a pass from discipline? 

Was our confession of faith ever intended to bear the weight of bringing unity to the extent that we seem to be expecting of it (especially in light of our weakening personal relationships and joint ministry)? Who gets to decide the answers to these questions and how can we encourage open, constructive conversation to inform them? 

And finally, is it wise for a denomination to take such divisive action as dismembering congregations from our denominational community before we have clarity to these questions (and the many others raised)? 

David Wiebe. It's hard to add to the already great comments; all have raised significant points. So Brian Cooper, you have hit a chord! Hopefully not "discordant." 

Delbert Wiens of Fresno Pacific University ("College" in his day) once noted that even a biblical metaphor pushed too far can become a "heresy". I wonder if pushing on the family metaphor the way Brian has done takes it beyond coherence. (Coherence with the dozens of biblical pictures of the church; coherence with how we as MB's have considered being family around confessional issues). 

Glen Friesen. My daughter is part of the LGBTQ+ community, she is also full blood Mennonite. She also loves Jesus with all her heart and is walking as close to him as you or I. Jesus would call her his sister according to Matthew 3, yet you are throwing her out of the church. 

Jesus calls us to love and not to judge, the MB church seems to have that backwards. 

This article is asking us to stick to the old ways, but I can tell you, the old timers didn’t always have it right. If they did then our ladies would still wear head coverings and not be involved in leadership. Those who divorce would be thrown out of the church and heaven forbid you get a tattoo or drive a red car! 

The fact is Jesus called us to love one another and never said a thing about LGBTQ+. 

Heather Loewen. Glen Friesen, the article is asking us to stick to Scripture, not our own traditions. He’s not talking about throwing people out because of their sin, but we also can’t encourage those sins. What is grace and forgiveness without judgment? We are not to condemn, but we absolutely need to discern. The warning not to judge is because we will be judged in that same way - harsh, cold, unforgiving, or with mercy and discipline.

Jesus did talk about sexuality “He who created them in the beginning made them male and female” (see Matt 19). For some of us our desires/feelings are more crosses to bear than others. 

Again, Brian has published a response to these comments on his blog. Find it here.


Sunday, April 9, 2023

Reflection: When it comes to LGBTQ+ welcome, inclusion and affirmation, for Mennonite Brethren in Canada it's not all in the family


 






One of the main metaphors used by people who support LGBTQ+ welcome, inclusion and affirmation in the Canadian Conference of Mennonite Brethren Churches (CCMBC) has been that of family. 

For them, the Mennonite Brethren Conference in Canada is a family. And families don’t kick members out when they disagree. Once a member, always a member. That's what families do. 

But recent votes in Ontario and Manitoba showed that not to be the case, what with Southridge. FreeChurch and Jubilee being removed from membership in their respective conferences. 

Those decisions were made at a provincial conference level. Now the national conference seems to have affirmed those decisions and provided them with theological and biblical justification through an article in the latest MB Herald Digest. 

The article, titled "All In The Family?" is by Brian Cooper, who teaches theology at the Mennonite Brethren Seminary in Abbotsford, B.C. 

In the article, Cooper acknowledges how often the word “family” has been used to describe Mennonite Brethren in Canada, noting there are biological, ethnic, cultural and historical ties that have caused people in the Conference to feel they belong together in that way. 

These ties have “blurred the distinction between biological and cultural family connections and spiritual/theological family connections, much to the detriment of our denominational fellowship,” he says. 

The way "biological and cultural connections had overshadowed theological connections" would, he feared, one day cause trouble. 

Well, that trouble has come, he says, in the form of conversations about LGBTQ+. The
"elephant in the room,” as he put it.
 

Those conversations “have revealed that the different ways of considering one another family have dramatically complicated an already difficult conversation topic.” 

Through the article, he seeks to uncomplicate that notion by reflecting “theologically on what it means to be family, because understanding what this means can help orient us in the right direction.” 

He does this by quoting the words of Jesus in Matthew 10:34 about not coming to bring peace but a sword. 

That is, he says, “a stark reminder to me that the call of discipleship is not always friendly to the expectations and demands of being part of a biological or cultural family.” 

The call to discipleship in the Gospels, he goes on to say, “is not unclear in its requirement of total commitment to Jesus first, before any other loyalty. Jesus presciently saw that this call would turn family members against one another, would demand awful self-sacrifice, and would cost some people their lives.” 

He notes Jesus’ words in Mark about who is his family: “Whoever does God’s will is my brother and sister and mother.” 

Says Cooper: “In one swift blow, Jesus knocks down any misapprehensions we might harbor in which we confuse the relative importance of biological family and spiritual family. For Jesus, spiritual family necessarily comes first.” 

He then asks: “So what’s the takeaway for Mennonite Brethren? 

For him, “this is where it gets real, and where it becomes truly difficult . . . but also vital. As hard as it is to say no to parents, children, siblings, cousins—those we love dearly, the call to say yes to Jesus takes precedence. The call to uphold what we believe our faith in Christ demands, necessitates that we prioritize the unity of the spiritual family even ahead of those beloved biological family members we would like to affirm. This is profoundly hard. It may seem like exclusion, but it is not. It is faithfulness.” 

That doesn’t mean “complete and utter dissociation,” Cooper says. 

“Conversations may continue. Friendships may persist, and should. Most of the time, biological and cultural connections are to be enjoyed and celebrated. But theological divisions that arise cannot be subsumed beneath calls to maintain the unity of the family. Theological connections are the measure of true family. Membership in the body, the sign of formal theological affirmation, is connected to theological unity rather than historic connections.” 

It is painful, he says, “to see fellow believers with whom we have many years of history articulate theological commitments that take them beyond the limits of the convictions that we have long confessed together. We want to think of them as family; who could countenance not viewing them in this way? But on the other hand, what do our theological convictions mean if we are willing to surrender them in times of challenge?” 

He concludes: “In the context of the Kingdom, we are not a family if we are not a spiritual one. We are united not simply in a common commitment to Jesus, but in a common understanding of what that commitment entails . . . knowing when and why to part ways can be a sign of theological maturity rather than theological failure. And it can remind us what it means to be a family. For the right reasons.” 

To be sure I understood the point Cooper was trying to make, I asked him: “Am I correct in assuming you are saying that, when it comes to issues like LGBTQ+, theology trumps family and relationships? That it is better to part ways with someone who views that topic differently from you?” 

Cooper replied: "Yes, you are correct. Parting ways is difficult, but sometimes necessary. And theology does take priority over family and relationships." 

It’s important to note the article isn’t an official CCMBC document. But by being published in the MB Herald Digest it does very strongly suggest that it reflects the position of the Conference on the topic of LGBTQ+ welcome, inclusion and affirmation. And also what kind of family Mennonite Brethren in Canada actually want to be.

Read the full article in the MB Herald Digest.

 

Sunday, April 2, 2023

From the Winnipeg Free Press: Jubilee Mennonite Church voted out of denomination


 








Nearly 75 per cent of delegates at the Mennonite Brethren Church of Manitoba annual meeting held in Winkler on March 4 voted to revoke Jubilee Mennonite Church’s membership in the denomination by July 1, 2023, unless it returns to “an active embrace of MBCM member church expectations by June 30.”

 

But Jubilee Mennonite Church stands by its policy to welcome people regardless of gender identity, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, ability or economic status, said moderator Chris Friesen.


“We have no intention of altering our statement of inclusion that we prepared,” he said.

 

Read the full article about Jubilee’s removal from membership in MBCM in the Winnipeg Free Press.

 

Update on this blog: Time for a pause